Have You Met the You That Heaven Designed Yet?
Spirit. Soul. Body. Understanding the divine order of who you truly are.
You — the real you — are spirit.
Not your body.
Not your appearance.
Not what you do, or what you feel.
Not who others think you should be, or even who you believe yourself to be.
Your truest identity is spirit.
You have a soul, designed to express that identity through your mind, will, and emotions. You live in a body, which manifests that identity in the earth.
This is God’s order.
And when that order is disrupted, when soul or body takes the lead, we end up out of sync with the One who created us.
A mentor recently shared a quote with me that I haven’t been able to shake:
“You are a spirit, which is your identity. You have a soul, which is meant to express that identity. Then your body is a manifestation of your identity.”
This struck something within me. Not because it was necessarily new, but because my spirit finally had words for what it already understood.
If the real you is spirit, then order matters.
Creation itself works this way. An idea comes first, then expression, then manifestation. Unseen before seen. Invisible before visible. Spirit before man.
This is God’s design.
When this order is intact, life flows with a sense of alignment and coherence. But when the order is reversed and the soul leads, or the body, we drift out of alignment with Heaven’s design for our lives.
Which raises a question we rarely ask:
Have you ever asked God to let you meet the real you?
All Roads Point to God
If the real you is spirit, then where you look for meaning matters.
Based on this premise, the real you cannot be found anywhere else but in God.
Scripture makes this clear. When Jesus is asked what the greatest commandment is, He responds:
“Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind… and love your neighbour as yourself.” ~ Matthew 22:36–40
This is not merely a moral instruction. It reveals a pattern.
God first.
Then you.
Then others.
All interconnected.
In loving God, you come into right relationship with yourself. And by default, you learn how to love others. This is not always easy, especially where offence, wounds, or history are involved. But the order matters.
In God, all things flow.
God leads you to God.
God leads you to the blueprint of who you are.
God leads you to yourself.
Which leads you… right… back… to God.
At the heart of what Jesus is saying is this: the cart cannot come before the horse. To experience love — which is God — God must come first.
This requires a reorientation of how we think, feel, and operate.
And by no means am I saying that your thoughts, emotions, or desires are inherently wrong. Many are beautiful indicators of where you are in life, and plenty of desires are God-given.
But when these things are not submitted to the One who gave you life, they end up running the show. And when they run the show, the order is reversed.
God is not after religion — He is after relationship
Scripture reminds us: “Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart.” (Psalm 37:4) When desire is aligned, it becomes life-giving rather than life-directing. When relationship with the One who knows you best is the foundation of your existence it brings with it the blessings attached to it.
What I am describing here is the way identity flourishes best, aka when your soul is aligned with God’s Spirit and His will.
This is why, for the fullness of who you are to begin manifesting on earth, your spirit must come to the forefront.
But the onus is on us.
Until that onus is picked up by you, the fullness of who you are remains in the background. This has nothing to do with wealth, status, fame, beauty, social media presence, marriage, or possessions. Alignment flows from Heaven, not from the structures of this world.
Why Do We Search for Meaning?
Across cultures and generations, every human asks the same questions:
Who am I?
What is my purpose?
How did I get here?
That longing is not accidental. It was placed within us by God as part of His design. Once again, order. Creation needs its Creator. And so, alas what is embedded within us is a quiet but persistent call to seek Him. Because only God can fill what He designed.
That subtle niggle you feel. That urge to strive, to achieve, to rest, to be fulfilled — is often the whisper of your spirit saying, feed me. The whole of creation groans inwardly for the reconciliation of what it was created for. Including us. (Romans 8:19-23) Even the least ambitious person seeks something to satisfy the ache.
But here is the key: if your spirit is predicated on the wrong things — anything other than God — meaning will feel slippery, fulfillment will be temporary, and no amount of self-discovery will settle the ache.
You end up feeding your spirit what cannot sustain it.
This is why your spirit must connect with God’s Spirit. That is the only nourishment that lasts. Everything else fills briefly and then leaves you empty again.
The Divine Path You Are Being Called to Walk
Deep down your spirit knows there is a path for you to walk. A divine blueprint prepared for you. That path looks different for each person, but the Maker of the road is calling you onto it.
Answering that call requires quietening the soul and the flesh — through prayer, fasting, and worship for example. Such spiritual acts are not one-offs, but disciplines that shape how you live. They are opportunities for a holy meeting point — where God’s Spirit joins to our spirit and declares our true DNA: His.
I won’t pretend this path doesn’t cost something. It does. Renewal of the mind. Sacrifice. Time alone with God. Letting go of certain relationships. Being misunderstood. Questions. Wrestling. Releasing the need to always do what you want — because there cannot be two captains on the same ship. This is the journey of knowing God more closely, and in turn, knowing yourself.
This is where wholeness is found.
Guard Your Heart, Keep Your Soul Diligently
We live in a world saturated with noise, comparison, pressure, and distraction. If you do not intentionally feed your spirit, these things will infiltrate your mind, will, and emotions.
Those who are deeply empathetic and emotionally attuned often feel this most. Their sensitivity is a gift — but without submission, it can easily lead them to be driven by emotion rather than led by the Spirit. Past wounds, disappointments, and trauma can quietly distort what was meant to be beautiful.
God wants to use your heart.
He wants to use your empathy.
But He does not want your soul to run the show.
When the soul leads, it becomes easy to drift off course. And there are times the fruits of the soul can look similar to the fruits of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23) — but they are not the same. Remember a fruit does not come before the root.
So guard your heart and keep your soul diligently. Especially if you are someone who tends to be led by the pressings of your heart, or your own will. Ask God for His opinion — even on the small things.
That is how hearing Him becomes clearer.
Discernment sharpens.
Direction becomes precise.
This is how His Spirit begins to lead.
How order is restored.
And how you meet the you that Heaven designed.