God Is Drawing You to Him
Do you know that every day we wake up is another chance to look more like Jesus? But to look like Him, we have to be willing to lose what looks like us. This is a holy dance. A stripping away of who we’ve become apart from Him, and a putting on of the One who gave us our identity in the first place.
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It sounds counterintuitive, but the more we lose ourselves, the more we find God.
Well—the idea of ourselves.
In fact, the only way we truly become more of who we are is by drawing nearer to who He is. When we come close to Him, we begin to release the self-made versions of who we thought we had to be, or who the world told us we needed to be. In doing so, we give Jesus permission to take His rightful place as Lord of our lives.
While that all sounds good in theory, the real question is, how do we actually do that? The answer lies in allowing God to draw us back to Himself. But this begins with a daily choice of surrender.
Surrender isn’t a word most believers love. It can sound like weakness, or like letting go of control. But the truth? Surrender is essential to the Christian walk. If we are to truly put God first in our lives, we must live a life of ongoing surrender again, and again, and again.
The catch is, we don’t have to surrender alone. We need God, even in this.
If we’re honest, it’s easy to put Him second, third, or even last. But if our desire is to truly know Him, hear Him, and walk with Him, we must let Him into every area of our lives. If we want our lives to be used for His glory, we must allow Him to draw us near, creating space for His Spirit to move through us as His vessels.
God draws us in many ways. Here are three specific ways He may be calling you closer to Himself today:
1. Through the Pruning
Scripture says that God is in the business of consistently refining us. He prunes us, removing what no longer serves us, what’s overgrown, what’s dead, what’s blocking fruit. Essentially: what’s in the way of you.
“He will sit as a refiner and a purifier of silver; He will purify the sons of Levi, and purge them as gold and silver…”
Malachi 3:3 (NKJV)
Like a master gardener, God sometimes allows us to be cut, not to harm, but to heal and build us up stronger than before. Like a refiner of gold, He returns us to the fire again and again until the impurities rise, and His reflection shines through us.
If you’ve built an identity not rooted in His truth, if you’ve shaped a life as a trauma response, He may begin pulling it down, piece by piece.
Not to destroy you, but because He’s after something purer. A willing heart. One that longs to be shaped by His loving hands into someone only He could design.
Pruning isn’t punishment. It’s love in action. It’s how He brings fruit from our lives and draws us into the life He created for us.
Pruning happens in seasons, and with each one, it produces His Spirit in us: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.
“Every branch that bears fruit He prunes, that it may bear more fruit.”
John 15:2
“By this My Father is glorified, that you bear much fruit...”
John 15:8
With every pruning season, know that He is drawing you deeper.
2. Through the Unravelling
Unravelling is another way that God draws us closer to Him. This is when He works to undo what we’ve built without Him, so He can rebuild us in truth.
This can often look like emotional chaos, but rest assured that it is in this deconstruction that He will work in you.
As I was writing my last book, God showed me a pattern in Scripture: He tears down false foundations to prepare us for something greater. And the process usually follows this rhythm:
Inner chaos
External disruption
Complete breakdown
Unexpected breakthrough
You’ll see it in Moses, Jonah, Elijah, Jacob. Their crises weren’t just breakdowns—they were divine invitations. Invitations to stop surviving in an identity never meant for them, and step into the one God had written from the beginning.
“For You formed my inward parts; You covered me in my mother's womb. I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works, And that my soul knows very well. My frame was not hidden from You, When I was made in secret, And skillfully wrought in the lowest parts of the earth. Your eyes saw my substance, being yet unformed. And in Your book they all were written, The days fashioned for me, When as yet there were none of them.” Jeremiah 139:13-16
Your unravelling is not your undoing.
It’s your becoming.
3. Through the Rebuilding of Your Identity in Him (What I call “The Soul Pull”)
There’s nothing more beautiful, more freeing, than walking in who God actually created you to be.
Not the version people expect.
Not the version pain shaped.
Not the version hustle built.
The real you. The God-designed you.
And when you start walking in that design, something powerful happens: your soul aligns with its Creator. That’s what I call, the soul pull. It’s that invisible thread that tugs you back to Him and says, This is what you were made for.
You’ve seen it in others—that “Jesus glow.” That weightless light on people who’ve let go of self and been filled by God. They’re not striving. They’re abiding.
You’ve got that soul pull too. You just need to reconnect it to the throne of Jesus—without interference.
That ache in your belly? That hunger no job, no relationship, no platform can fill? That’s eternity calling. That’s God pulling.
And when you see Him clearly, you start to see yourself clearly too.
“He has made everything beautiful in its time. Also He has put eternity in their hearts…”
Ecclesiastes 3:11
This Is Your Call Back
So ask yourself. Are you feeding that hunger? Are you seeking Him more than external solutions? Are you desiring to draw closer to His face?
If so, this is your call to return. To stop murmuring. To stop resisting. To stop standing in your own way.
Let Him prune you.
Let Him unravel what was never meant to last.
Let Him rebuild the real you.
He’s drawing you back. Will you return?